when a spouse leaves

"Have you noticed how the wounded partner in a divorce, the person who is clearly the victim of the other's irresponsibility, is often the one who suffers the greatest guilt when the marriage breaks up? It's true.

Marital disintegration is seldom the fault of the husband or wife alone. There's fault of the husband or wife alone. There's always some measure of shared blame. However, when one marriage partner decides to behave irresponsibily, to become involved outside of marriage, or to run from family commitments and obiligations. that person usually seeks to justify his or her behavior by magnifying the failures of the spouse, For a husband or wife with low self esteem, these charges and recriminations are accepted and internalised as indisputable facts.

If you're in this situation today, you must resist the temptation to take all the blame. You might begin to see yourself as a victim, rather than a worthless failure at the game of love."

-taken from "FOCUS family" today paper.


went for excursion today to Chinatown. Hot sunny day and we were all walking along the streets of Chinatown. Fun bringing the kids around buying new year goodies. Headed to bugis to meet Kiara after practicumt to shop! fantastic. went body shop and got serve by that trans. but she was really sweet and nice.

Sometimes in the childcare, when i walk around and see the happy family photos of the children with their dad and mum, brother and sister or drawings and writing about m"MY FAMILY". this is my daddy, this is my mummy...i feel like crying out loud...